How Parents can Support Self-Esteem

How Parents Can Support Self-Esteem

•       Make time to communicate to your child the importance of education.
•       Work with your child to help him or her develop a positive attitude towards schoolwork.
•       Practice patience and tolerance.
•        "You seem discouraged. Let's go over your mistakes together so that you'll be able to avoid them next time."
•       Provide encouragement to your child whenever possible.
•       Positive, constructive criticism is the way to go.
•        "Great! This report has many good ideas. Lets see if we can work on arranging your thoughts a little better."
•       Emphasize what your child does right.
•        "Until now you've been doing great. Let's see if we can get you back on track. "
•       Continue to expect an increase in accomplishment.
•       Be a good listener and pay attention your responding tone of voice.
•       Be available to discuss problems your child is having, whether they are large or small.
•       Compare your child's progress, to his/her own record.
•       Avoid labeling!
•       Support self-expression and creativity.
•       Set up your child's time schedule to include a balance of work and play.
•       Involve children in real chores & helping tasks to give them a sense of accomplishment.
•       Take part in your child's education- be active in his or her school.
•       Show your love and affection for your child – often!

Prepared by Karen DeBord, Ph.D., State Extension Specialist, Child Development Published by

NORTH CAROLINA COOPERATIVE EXTENSION SERVICE